Hi! I'm a 24 year old city girl who was diagnosed with HSV2 (aka genital herpes) almost four years ago but who refuses to give up on the idea of love (and really good sex) despite it. I've only just begun my journey of self-acceptance, self-love and self-discovery. I hope to chronicle my life relating to the virus and social stigma, create a support system and hopefully be there for anyone going through the same thing.According to the CDC, 1 in every 6 sexually active people ages 12 and up, has HSV2. One in every two will contract an STC (sexually transmitted condition) in their lifetime. Get informed, get educated and always use protection!Please check out the FAQs before submitting questions to make sure they haven't already been answered. :)Note: When asking questions, submitting stories, etc, don't use the word "clean" to refer to people without STDs, as it implies that those who do are "dirty". It's offensive and makes me uncomfortable. I won't answer your question if you use that term. For us to change the narrative and get rid of HSV stigma, we first have to change our own narrative and start by noting how we unconsciously propagate it ourselves. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org if anyone ever wants to email me. :)
At first it was ridiculously hard and sometimes I have my low days but you just have to realize that this is just another of life’s hurdles. Crappy things happen to good people all the time, and it helps to see HSV for what it is: a simple, very, very old virus. It’s a contagious condition that has been around for over 2,000 years, one that wasn’t even a big deal until a few decades ago thanks to pharmaceutical companies wanting to make a profit.
Don’t blame yourself or think that this was some punishment the universe decided to throw at you, because that’s not true.
So what do you do? Like Coquette always says, you sit with your feelings and you acknowledge them, and you acknowledge your right to feel them, and you let them pass. The worst thing you can do is let those bad feelings fester because you’re not hurting anyone but yourself. Learn about the virus, work on your self esteem, realize that you’re not dirty, shameful, or any other negative feeling society has about HSV, and realize that this doesn’t define you.
Coping is a funny thing. There are many things you can try (write, exercise, pick up a hobby, find a support group, create a blog) but you have to figure out what’s best for you. The best part is that it gets easier.
Life is beautiful and there are many really cool people that will love you and care for you, and want to bang your brains out.
I know it’s a lot to handle right now but just take it a day at a time and remember that you’re not alone. Everything’s going to be okay. :)