Hi! I'm a 24 year old city girl who was diagnosed with HSV2 (aka genital herpes) almost four years ago but who refuses to give up on the idea of love (and really good sex) despite it. I've only just begun my journey of self-acceptance, self-love and self-discovery. I hope to chronicle my life relating to the virus and social stigma, create a support system and hopefully be there for anyone going through the same thing.According to the CDC, 1 in every 6 sexually active people ages 12 and up, has HSV2. One in every two will contract an STC (sexually transmitted condition) in their lifetime. Get informed, get educated and always use protection!Please check out the FAQs before submitting questions to make sure they haven't already been answered. :)Note: When asking questions, submitting stories, etc, don't use the word "clean" to refer to people without STDs, as it implies that those who do are "dirty". It's offensive and makes me uncomfortable. I won't answer your question if you use that term. For us to change the narrative and get rid of HSV stigma, we first have to change our own narrative and start by noting how we unconsciously propagate it ourselves. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org if anyone ever wants to email me. :)
Don’t put alcohol on the lipstick, it might ruin/dissolve it. Just cut a thin sliver off the top.
Okay that was the weirdest pregnancy scare ever. I missed one BC pill at the beginning of my cycle and then was a bit early to take it a few days later. Fast forward a week and I start getting* nauseous, fatigued, getting acid reflux more than usual and side/back pains. All signs of pregnancy. I was basically convinced and was already planning my Planned Parenthood visit.
I’m not pregnant.
hey there… I had sex with my boyfriend, now ex, about a week ago for the first time. I then noticed he had a scab on his penis. He said it was that the skin broke years ago… today when I peed it hurt like hell, and when I looked, I had a tiny sore. Almost 100% its herpes. I want to die right now. I got herpes from a guy who left me a week after he had sex with me. I wish I was dead.-x- “He said it was that the skin broke years ago”. That doesn’t even make sense. Scabs don’t stay around for years, they always fall off within a few days. Basically your ex is a fucking asshole liar piece of scum and one day you’ll look back and be thankfully that he disappeared from your life now and not once he got you pregnant or after cheating on you with the 15th chick. The guy that gave me HSV never called me back either. He completely disappeared and it destroyed me so I know how you feel. The journey to acceptance might take a while for you, as it did for me, but there are brighter days ahead, I promise. Get tested (swab test or wait 3 months for a blood test) to know for sure since you’re brain will play tricks on you, even if you get a positive diagnosis. Denial is a part of the grieving process and that’s what you’re beginning to undergo. I look back now and think of the guy that gave this to me, and feel nothing but contempt. Grieve, leg yourself feel, and be kind to yourself. You did nothing wrong and you’re still the same person you were before the bump. It might be a tough road ahead but you’re a warrior and you’ll persevere. Maybe in a few months/years, you’ll find a cute, nerdy 6’2 guy with a beard that likes comics and giving you oral sex too! Ahaha.
Lymph nodes usually become swollen when the immune system is compromised by something like an infection (or an OB, etc). I always immediately know I have an ear infection or that my nickel allergy is acting up because my lymph node next to my ear gets swollen.
Are you sure you don’t have some other type of infection like yeast or a UTI?
:) May the universe grant you peace, love and serenity.
It’s usually recommended to wait a week after symptoms have cleared completely to be sexually active again. Usually I wait at least four days, since the virus might still be lingering on the skin right after symptoms go away.
"it feels like i’m very alone in regards to every other person here."
:( Why is that? No, really, why do you feel like an outsider in the online herpes community? Usually I get messages of it helping people be less lonely, not equally or more so?
The thing about self-esteem is that unfortunately no one really has a cure for it. You can take anti-depression or anti-anxiety meds to help see the world clearer if you need them but nothing will really make you like you unless you WANT to like yourself. Some people say “make it ‘til you break it” but the way I see it, the only person that can make yourself like you, is you, and life is difficult enough to want to purposefully make it more difficult.
Just be kind to yourself. You’re worthy, you’re beautiful, and you deserve great things.
Thank you but you don’t have to be snarky about it.
Well, it depends, but most likely. Was it a swab test? The only way to know is to make sure your ex hasn’t had sex with anyone new from three months before his blood test to the last time you had sex with him. HSV antibodies can take up to three months to show up on a blood test, giving you a possible false-negative if you take it to soon.
You used the word “clean” to refer to those that are STD-negative which is derogatory to those that HAVE STDs. I have on my “about me” that I don’t answer questions that use this term. People with STDs aren’t dirty unless they are literally dirty and haven’t showered. Please resubmit your question with appropriate wording.
To combat the stigma, we first need to realize how we subconsciously perpetrate it ourselves.
General herpes usually shows up in the genital area (labia majora, labia minora, inside the vagina, on the shaft of the penis, on the head of it, on the testicles and on or in the anus). :) hopefully you’re better now!