Hi! I'm a 24 year old city girl who was diagnosed with HSV2 (aka genital herpes) almost four years ago but who refuses to give up on the idea of love (and really good sex) despite it. I've only just begun my journey of self-acceptance, self-love and self-discovery. I hope to chronicle my life relating to the virus and social stigma, create a support system and hopefully be there for anyone going through the same thing.According to the CDC, 1 in every 6 sexually active people ages 12 and up, has HSV2. One in every two will contract an STC (sexually transmitted condition) in their lifetime. Get informed, get educated and always use protection!Please check out the FAQs before submitting questions to make sure they haven't already been answered. :)Note: When asking questions, submitting stories, etc, don't use the word "clean" to refer to people without STDs, as it implies that those who do are "dirty". It's offensive and makes me uncomfortable. I won't answer your question if you use that term. For us to change the narrative and get rid of HSV stigma, we first have to change our own narrative and start by noting how we unconsciously propagate it ourselves. My email is email@example.com if anyone ever wants to email me. :)
If you have herpes, fuck it. It’s not the end of the world and everything will work out. You’ll have awesome sex, you’ll meet an awesome person (or two, or three, I ain’t your mom, I don’t know how you live your life), and you’ll overcome this. You’ll figure out disclosure, and condoms, and OBs, and all the other crap, and hopefully you finally meet someone that’s worth everything you’ve gone through to get to that point.
So if you have HSV, I hope you don’t let it being you down because (in the words of Britney) you’re stronger than yesterday, now it’s nothing but hour way. Your loneliness ain’t killing you no mooooo’. You’re stronger (come on).
I actually just deleted mine (had it for friends) and was on it for two years. Personally I never paid for it and never really had to. Just check out the site for a little while before deciding if you want to buy a membership.
Personally I met some cool people on there but my main issue with the site is the air of…settling and desperation. Basically every date I went on from there felt like at least one of us was just there because we knew we wouldn’t have to disclose later. Maybe that’s just my area though, I don’t know.
I finally switched to OkCupid once I was ready to be vulnerable regarding disclosure again and that’s where I met my snugglebear haha.
!!! On my phone so no gifs but hell yeah, high-five!
I had no idea I was having an outbreak and we had sex. He doesn’t know that’s what it is because he wasn’t diagnosed but i know that’s what it is. I have been crying and apologizing to him over and over again.
Fuck. Okay. The first thing you need to do is take him to a doctor and make sure it’s HSV and not just genitals being weird. If it is: did you speak to him about it before? Did he know the risks? Are you sure he didn’t have it before and wasn’t diagnosed? If he knew the risks and you were 100% forthright and honest, then you didn’t do anything wrong. There’s always a risk with these things and sometimes you just have shitty luck.
All you can do is be there for him and help him cope.
Is there any way you can just ask to go see your regular doctor for your annual exam? You’re 18+ and patient confidentiality exists for a reason. Plus, basically everyone will have some form of HPV at some point (warts on “regular” parts of your body, like you hands come from a strain too!).
Honestly, genital warts is nothing to be afraid of since they’re only cosmetic and usually go away on their own. They won’t affect you medically. It might also be your brain making you believe you have something because you’re scared you do. There’s a bunch of reasons why you might have some bumps that aren’t STDs.
If you’re seriously worried and you can’t go to the doctor, dab a bit of vinegar on the wart (just enough to have the vinegar on it). Don’t do this if it’s inside or near the vaginal canal unless instructed by a doctor, I don’t want you messing with anything down there. Anyway, if it turns white, it’s genital warts. If it doesn’t, it’s not. That’s what your doctor’s going to do, anyway. [Source]
Do whatever feels right. If you want to tell the guy, do so. If you don’t, you don’t have to. It’s going to be okay, I promise. Chin up, buttercup.
Yeah it is, but it’s pretty rare and you most likely wouldn’t be able to tell the difference unless you specifically went to get swab tests.
It’s not impossible but it’s a low chance, yes. It all depends how much you care about not having it orally or him genitally.