Hi, just wanted to check in. The past 8 years (!!!!!) have been crazy. I started this blog when I had just been diagnosed and was a terrified 21 year old desperate for some reassurance that I’d be okay. I’m now on the edge of 30. I’ve loved, I’ve lost, got engaged, broke that off, started dating women and I’ve had plenty of really good sex in between.
HSV is not something I want to spend a lot of time thinking about because it just isn’t worth the stress and shame associated with it.
Due to this, I’m not really engaging with messages even though I read all of them - everything asked has been answered as-nauseum in the previously published asks. Please look them over.
I know that it might feel like a new diagnosis is the end of the world and you want someone to tell *you* specifically that things will be okay but I just don’t have the spoons to tell everyone the same thing all the time, forever. You won’t be the first to be diagnosed and you won’t be the last.
If you’re new to the HSV world, welcome and get ready for a journey in the less cheesiest way possible. Be ready to learn about yourself, your relationships and use it to launch yourself into a new version of yourself.
This will only limit you if you let it - there nothing wrong with you and you’ll be okay.
I wish you all the best and maybe I’ll see you around the next time I post (eta: ???).
Love and glitter,
EWH
If you can, go see a therapist. Seriously. If your diagnosis causes you to sink so far into a depression that you can’t leave your house, then it’s a little bit bigger than just having trouble dealing with the news.
I can tell you it’s going to be okay until my head falls off, but it doesn’t mean you’ll believe it. You’ll get there, but everyone needs to get there themselves, unfortunately.
Stay strong, buttercup.
What happened?!
Honestly, it just depends. Personally I think it’s common for people to start a daily prescription, even if it’s just for nerves and just to feel like you’re doing something. I took them for a few months when I first found out and it made me feel a lot more in control of the situation. In the long term it’s not that great of an idea unless you need it because you’re having frequent OBs, but you can reconsider once you’re feeling a little more grounded and calm.
Of course it’s normal. And you feel like that because even though he responded with love and acceptance, you still need that from the most important person: you.
A week is a very short time to expect full acceptance. Shit, it took me at least a year just to start dating again!
Be kind to yourself, you’re doing great. Remember that. :)
I’m a 20 year old female and I just found out yesterday I tested positive for HSV2. I feel like this is the worst thing that could happen to me. and this is the lowest I’ve ever felt about myself in my life. before yesterday I would say I had very high confidence and now I feel like I can’t even talk to the opposite sex. And I feel like if I were to talk start talking to someone over a couple of weeks it would be deceitful to not tell them and wait for them to catch feelings for me. and if I tell a person right away I have herpes they’re not going to stick around. I feel like damaged goods, and that no one will want me. I think I’m still in shock because I can’t stop crying. if there is anyone out there that can just talk to me about there experience and how they cope I would really appreciate it,
thank you
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I was 20 when I was diagnosed and I’m 28 now, with a long-term boyfriend who’s proposing soon, a career and my own home, with 2 cats that love me too.
I know right now it feels like the end of the world and you’re going through hell, so keep going. The easiest way is through.
I’m here if you want to talk. Also, here’s the link to my story. I think you might find it comforting to know you’re not alone.
You’re not doomed, you just haven’t found your way out of the fog yet. You’ll get there, I promise.
Well I just recently found out that I have HSV2. My boyfriend thankfully came back negative. But now he needs time to think. We had exchanged the “L” word, so I am in limbo. I can’t ask him to risk catching it, but I am hoping he stays.
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I hope he stays too. :)
Just saw this! I told him two days after I met him. I wanted him to know upfront before I got attached, but he also studied biology so it wasn’t a big deal to him. Tell your partner when you’re ready but before you have sex or become too emotionally invested.
Have you told them already?