Earth, Wind and Herpes

Hi! I'm a 24 year old city girl who was diagnosed with HSV2 (aka genital herpes) almost four years ago but who refuses to give up on the idea of love (and really good sex) despite it. I've only just begun my journey of self-acceptance, self-love and self-discovery. I hope to chronicle my life relating to the virus and social stigma, create a support system and hopefully be there for anyone going through the same thing.According to the CDC, 1 in every 6 sexually active people ages 12 and up, has HSV2. One in every two will contract an STC (sexually transmitted condition) in their lifetime. Get informed, get educated and always use protection!Please check out the FAQs before submitting questions to make sure they haven't already been answered. :)Note: When asking questions, submitting stories, etc, don't use the word "clean" to refer to people without STDs, as it implies that those who do are "dirty". It's offensive and makes me uncomfortable. I won't answer your question if you use that term. For us to change the narrative and get rid of HSV stigma, we first have to change our own narrative and start by noting how we unconsciously propagate it ourselves. My email is if anyone ever wants to email me. :)


Just a reminder that you’re whole without someone else. You are not a fraction. You’re a complete master piece all by yourself and you do not need anyone else to validate your existence.

(via hsv-2-laughter)

I don’t give out my number to gray faces. Come off anon (and not on a new tumblr) and I’ll text you. :)

But I also have really awesome boobs.


Please know that if you date me, I am a very touchy person. I will like to pet your head and hold your hand, rub your shoulders or hug you a lot. Simply put, to physically feel you in some way is very comforting to me and I can’t really apologize for it, it just feels natural to me and makes me happy.

You should never apologize for being affectionate! Some people are just really affectionate and some aren’t, you just have to find someone that fits with your “level”.

(via ohyeahistillhavehsv)

Asker Anonymous Asks:
This week, roughly, is the week I contracted and found out about my hsv-2. I'm feeling all dark and bitter since the guy that gave it to me broke my heart and went back to his ex girlfriend after he handed me this gift that keeps on giving. He gets to be happy and I get to be.... I don't know. Lost. Confused. Perpetually hurt (emotionally) and itchy (physically). I'm not sure how to cope. How to move on. How to forgive.. I still think about him all the time and honestly, I just wish he loved me
earthwindandherpes earthwindandherpes Said:

Feeling miserable when the person responsible is happy is seriously the worst. It doesn’t feel fair and it feels like life is just kicking you when you’re already down. It’s the worst slap in the face. I cried hysterically the day I saw the guy who gave me the HSV prancing around downtown with his new girlfriend; it had only been like a month after my diagnosis. I could feel the resentment and bitterness build up in my throat and stay there, leaving a bad taste in my mouth.

Unfortunately I know that me saying things like “everything will be okay!” and “you’re awesome!!!” won’t really help right now but I promise it’ll get easier. The first month is the worst and all you can do at first is try to process your feelings, be kind to yourself and take it a day at a time. Baby steps. You don’t have to tackle everything at once and no one is expecting you to be okay a week in. Let yourself grieve about the HSV, about the heartbreak and about being hurt over him moving on so quickly and just have faith that things will get easier as time progresses.

Four years later and I now realize that the guy who gave it to me is a fucker and that I dodged a bullet by not knowing him today. Hindsight is 20/20 and once the dust clears, you’ll see that it’s for the best. You don’t want to be with someone who just drops you when things gets hot and leaves you for his exgirlfriend. You deserve someone with integrity, not a punk asshole.

To the anon who is turning 19 in two weeks. I was in your same shoes. It gets better. Don't be scared to get medical help. I was scared to tell my mom bc I thought she would be disappointed in me for my choices(this happens to so many people, you can't blame yourself and think what would've happened if we never met.) but she just wanted to help me any way she could. My family still loves me, and I'm currently in a relationship of 10 months and counting. Life goes on, you can and will be happy!
earthwindandherpes earthwindandherpes Said:

I went on my first date since being diagnosed. This guy was tall, cute, funny and I have never had to disclose before so I got all emotionally geared up and announced “..I have genital herpes” and he high-fived me and said “Me too!” You could have knocked me over with a feather!!!!!!!!!

Girl, you are living. the. DREAM!

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hey there. I recently developed herpes symptoms after months of hearing rumors about my ex. I'm going to get tested soon for the official diagnosis. I know this is herpes. I can't do anything without crying. I turn 19 in two weeks and I feel like my life is ruined. I just wanted to tell you how much you are helping me through this. I am so thankful to have found your blog. Its helped more than you will ever know. :)
earthwindandherpes earthwindandherpes Said:

Chin up, buttercup. You’re stronger than you know.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
help. i'm having a panic attack. my boyfriend gave me oral sex but 3 seconds into it I pushed him away remembering he had a cold sore on the side of his mouth (the day before it looked like a pimple). it was a scab now. I immediately washed with warm water and soap, changed my underwear and urinated. it's been a day and I've shown no signs. he says the sore never touched me. we've been together for 3 years and have kissed with cold sores and never given each other one. is a transmission possible
earthwindandherpes earthwindandherpes Said:

There’s always s chance of transmission. You could even have the virus already and just be asymptomatic. All you can do now is wait for symptoms to show up.

Washing with warm water and soap, changing your underwear and urinating (as well as using antibacterial gel, alcohol, etc) won’t stop transmission. Once transmission happens, it’s done. 

Relax and wait, it’ll be okay. 


Traveling in Europe right now. Amazing. The great thing about traveling is that everything is so new and you’re always so focused on your next move that you can’t even think about herpes. But yeah, I think about it on trains and man, I had a dream about the guy who rejected me, but for the most…

Traveling is the best!